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In the USA? http://www.datingover50usa.comAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07158837356182609596noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8186328426810009303.post-60986759117552761942014-05-08T19:05:00.002+01:002014-05-08T19:05:54.178+01:00Are You Putting Off Potential Dates?When you are setting up your profile, think about how people will see you in your photo, as generally that will be the first thing they look at, and if it isn't appealing, you will no doubt get passed by however good your description of yourself is.<br />
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3. You're smiling!<br />
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Follow these simple rules and you'll be one step ahead of about 60% of the competition!<br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07158837356182609596noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8186328426810009303.post-18313687556382547822014-01-13T15:53:00.000+00:002014-01-13T15:53:07.368+00:00Sex Counts As 'Significant' Exercise, Says Scientists<div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px;">
Cancel the gym membership and send your kids/flatmates out to get milk - according to scientists, <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/news/uk-sex/" style="border: 0px; color: #0081c7; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_hplink">sex</a> counts as 'significant' exercise.</div>
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This comes as good news to those of us who hate gyms or have been vacuuming the house a bit too vigorously to shed the festive season pounds.</div>
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Researchers, <a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2534791/Forget-gym-stay-bed-burn-calories-Scientists-say-sex-counts-significant-exercise.html" style="border: 0px; color: #0081c7; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_hplink">reported The Daily Mail</a>, "found that men burn 120 calories from half an hour between the sheets, while women can lose 90 calories."</div>
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For most of us, that's the equivalent of a 15-minute jog.</div>
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""The couples were instructed to <a href="http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/sex/10553406/Sex-as-good-as-sport-for-burning-calories.html" style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; color: #0081c7; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_hplink">perform their usual sexual activities and not to use drugs, alcohol or medication for erectile dysfunction such as Viagra," reported The Telegraph.</a></div>
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The subjects, who were also asked to jog on a treadmill for 30 minutes, were fitted with armbands to measure how much energy they were expending and fill in questionnaires to record their enjoyment."</div>
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Aside from the findings of the study, there are plenty of other health benefits of sex, ahem, other than cardio.</div>
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Research from Scotland revealed that people who had sex even twice a fortnight managed stressful situations better.</div>
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<a href="http://www.womenshealthmag.com/health/health-benefits-of-sex?cat=25238" style="border: 0px; color: #0081c7; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_hplink">WomensHealthMag.com reported</a>: "That's because endorphins and oxytocin are released during sex, and these feel-good hormones activate pleasure centers in the brain that create feelings of intimacy and relaxation and help stave off anxiety and depression, says WH advisor Laura Berman, Ph.D., an assistant clinical professor of ob-gyn and psychiatry at the Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University and author of It's Not Him, It's You!"</div>
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The number of calories each person burned was recorded, as well as their metabolic equivalent of task (MET). This is what measures an activity against sitting still, which is called 1-MET.</div>
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In the end, the results showed that men burned on average 4.2 calories a minute, compared to 9.2 on the treadmill, while women burned 3.1 calories a minute during sex and 7.1 jogging.</div>
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The study also recorded an average 6-MET for men during sex and 5.6-MET for women, roughly the same as playing doubles tennis or walking uphill.</div>
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"These results suggest that sexual activity may potentially be considered, at times, as a significant exercise,” said lead author Julie Frappier.</div>
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"Moreover, both men and women reported that sexual activity was a highly enjoyable and more appreciated than the 30 min exercise session on the treadmill. Therefore, this study could have implications for the planning of intervention programs as part of a healthy lifestyle by health care professionals."</div>
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An author who rewrote the famous manual The Joy of Sex claims women’s love lives now get better with age.</div>
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Susan Quilliam claims divorced middle-aged women can enjoy “full and active sex lives” that was not possible for earlier generations.</div>
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The psychologist, who rewrote Alex Comfort’s famous 1972 sex manual to mark its 40th anniversary, said mature women in 2013 were free to indulge in new affairs after splitting from their husbands without being labelled “sluts”.</div>
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She pointed out that age and experience were now considered added attractions rather than signs a woman was “past it”.</div>
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The 63-year-old, whose 21-year marriage recently ended, said women no longer needed to fear disapproval for experimenting in the bedroom.</div>
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Speaking at the Cambridge University Festival of Ideas, she said: “In theory, I can, if I so wish, go out and sleep with somebody tonight without opprobrium, without being told I’m a slut.</div>
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“Well, there are some people who will still think I’m a slut, but largely we are lucky. Us women in 2013, we are lucky as no other women before us.</div>
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“We are lucky post Pill and post the Abortion Act to be able to know and decide where, what, who, how and also whether and where to look for sex – and where things are and what to do with them.”</div>
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She added: “Compared to our mothers’ and grandmothers’ generations we have more choice.</div>
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“More choice to have a relationship or not. The choice of whether to have a short-term relationship of just a few hours or a long-term one.</div>
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“We can also choose who we partner with. Our grandparents’ generation was firmly told they had to partner with someone of their own class and age.</div>
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“We can choose a partner who is younger or older, people who do not come from the same background or even the same continent.</div>
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The Cambridge-based writer, who married her former husband Ian Grove-Stephen, 56, in 1992, published a modern version of the self-help book The Joy of Sex last year.</div>
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She said: “When the original book came out in 1972, women who were over 50 or 60 years old were seen as past it, whereas they are now seen as attractive.</div>
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“We can have full and active sex lives. I know a lot of women over 50 with good sex lives.</div>
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“Women have become more powerful in society and because of this increase in power have been able to set the rules more.</div>
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“Society is more mature and experience in the bedroom is now seen as being just as compelling as being attractive.</div>
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“Older women now know a lot more about our bodies and how to please a man.”</div>
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Miss Quillam said widowed women were no longer under pressure to remain single for the rest of their lives.</div>
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She said: “Women do not have to be afraid. They can grab their own life by the scruff of the neck and think, “Let’s do this”. That’s something my mother and grandmother were not able to do.”</div>
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Miss Quillam refused to comment on whether she was currently in a relationship.</div>
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<strong style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Put effort into your profile.</strong> Your online dating profile is the first impression you can make on a potential date, so spend some time perfecting it! Answer the questions honestly and thoughtfully, and inject parts of your personality whenever possible. The goal is to show the world who you are and what you’re about through your profile. When it comes to choosing the right profile photo, select images that honestly reflect what you look like right now. Of course, we’d all love to put up photos from when we were twenty years younger or lighter, but ultimately that will do you more harm than good. Since you want to go out on real life dates with the people you meet online, it’s best to be honest about your physical appearance from the start.</div>
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<strong style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Speak up.</strong> Now that you’ve selected <a href="http://www.datingover50usa.com/" target="_blank">the best site</a> for you and created the perfect profile, some mature daters think all they need to do is sit back, relax and wait for the flood of emails from interested singles to come in. Sure, you could do this…but you might be waiting for a while! With online dating, you sit in the drivers seat. If you come across someone’s profile who looks interesting and attractive, there should be nothing stopping you from sending them a message. Women sometimes feel that they need to wait for a man to make the first move, but with online dating there is no waiting necessary. Most men would be thrilled that a woman took the initiative to say hello. Be an active participant on <a href="http://www.datingover50usa.com/" target="_blank">your online dating site</a>. Reply to messages, send winks or be available to instant message with other members.</div>
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<a href="http://www.datingover50usa.com/" target="_blank">Online dating is a rewarding journey</a>. Every single day is exciting simply because you never know who you are going to see when you log on. Above all else, remember one important thing. The more you put into your mature online dating experience, the better your results will be!</div>
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Thanks to <a href="http://maturedatingtalk.com/mature-online-dating-tips" target="_blank">Mature Dating Talk</a> for the article.</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07158837356182609596noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8186328426810009303.post-77590885581023856932013-09-26T14:38:00.001+01:002013-09-26T14:38:20.777+01:00The Do's And Don'ts Of Dating After 50<div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: arial; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px; padding: 0px 24px 19px 186px; vertical-align: baseline;">
<strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">New York City (CNN)</strong> -- I never thought I'd be here, but here I am. And let me tell you -- <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">dating at midlife</a> just ain't what it's cracked up to be.</div>
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What's that, you say? <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">Internet dating is all the rage!</a> There's no stigma anymore. It makes perfect sense. With our hypercharged careers, family responsibilities, keeping up with the news and working out -- who has the time to meet people anymore? Forget singles bars. What woman in her 50s really enjoys meeting strange men at bars? Oh, wait. Most Internet "first dates" begin at bars. With strange men. Still, the draw is strong. Everybody seems to know somebody who's met her significant other online.</div>
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"Marie met the love of her life," said a friend. "She was smart enough to increase her radius of possibilities to 150 miles. And then she found Ben -- only three hours away." Only three hours? What nobody really seems to tell you is that for every <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">online dating success</a> story, there are hundreds of failures: misleading (or outright fraudulent) profiles, years-old photos (at 50, that makes a real difference), awkward conversations, sexual miscues, and clearly incompatible goals.</div>
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My situation is fairly typical. After juggling two children and a demanding job, my first marriage ended in divorce. I had given it some hard thinking, but my relationship with my husband, which began when we were both in college, really couldn't make it for the long haul. So I opted out. About a year later, I encountered a friendly, good-looking neighbor, who had just recently become single. Howard became my second husband and the love of my life. That made it all the more crushing when he died of a brain tumor two years into our marriage. Thus began a long period of mourning, in which I helped usher my two daughters into adulthood, and devoted more attention to my career. But I was awfully lonely. It didn't help that I went straight home from work every night and stayed in on weekends.</div>
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My friends would gently nudge me: "Why don't you just go out more, even with friends?" "Have you checked out JDate?" And the always dependable: "Take a class. You'll meet people." But I was stubborn. Oddly, I'm a very social person. Why was I cutting myself off from the world? My reasoning was this: If I don't do anything, don't "get out there," nothing bad will happen. As in no disappointment, no heartbreak. There's one problem with this line of thinking. Yes, if you don't do anything, nothing bad happens. However, nothing good happens, either. Nothing happens.</div>
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So, seven years after my husband's death, I took the plunge. I signed up for <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">online dating</a> and even went to a speed dating session at a local bar.</div>
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I approached <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">online dating</a> very seriously, enlisting help from close friends for my profile. It needed a dash of wit, a sprinkling of sass and an attractive photo. But not too much wit, and not too much sass. As for the photo: There's no such thing as too attractive. After everything posted, I got a flood of responses from men. Not because I'm an exceptional catch, but because those who've been on the sites for a while tend to pounce on a new candidate. There were men who lived in other states and countries. (I can't afford to see you. And Skype relationships are pretty two-dimensional.) Men who mentioned sexual details in their profiles. (Yes, we get that sex is important, even in middle age. But this is just too much information!) Men who were grammatically challenged. (Either I'm not worth a coherent sentence or you are unable to compose one.)</div>
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<a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">My first online date</a> was at a nearby bar. I rushed home from work, put on a new outfit, makeup and perfume, and left the house looking and feeling like a million bucks. I walked into the bar where my date was sitting. Instantly, I could tell he wasn't interested. (Not that I was, either. But since then, I always arrive earlier than the man on a first date to check out, rather than be checked out.) The whole thing went downhill from there. My date spent an hour talking about what a long day he'd had, his allergies, and even checking out attractive women who walked by. Next!</div>
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The following night, I met a divorce lawyer for a drink. That job description should have been a red flag, but remember, I was trying to put myself "out there." He walked in and said: "You're a babe!" The last time someone called me a babe was, well, never. Yet, I tried to make the best of it, until he made a pass at me in the elevator. Want to seduce a woman? Trap her in a box and lunge at her. Works every time. Thankfully, I escaped unscathed.</div>
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After a few more encounters in which men talked nervously and endlessly about themselves, I met a man who seemed intelligent, attractive and interested in me. We dated for a couple of months. It was good for the ego at first, but turned out not to be a lasting relationship. Note to self: Just because a man doesn't talk about himself all the time doesn't mean he's right for you.</div>
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In addition to <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">online dating</a>, I've tried the novel approach of meeting men in person -- at a speed dating event. But it's just different for the boomer set. We're not kids anymore. We don't really do the "hang out, hook up" thing very well. Having a five-minute conversation isn't much of a barometer for a relationship.</div>
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Here are my "Speed Dating Dos and Don'ts, For Men of a Certain Age"</div>
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-- DO dress presentably. Clean it up. No Hawaiian shirts. And go easy on the hair product.</div>
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-- DO know how to talk to a woman. Bad line: "If your name weren't Ronni, what name would you want?" Good line: "You're a widow but out dating again? That's good for us men."</div>
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-- DON'T leave a woman sitting alone because you're too shy to come over during the break for buffet. For God's sake, it's speed dating. What did you sign up for?</div>
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-- DON'T talk about marriage on a five-minute speed date.</div>
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-- DO come up with a reason for why you're in your 50s (or 60s) and have never met the right woman. It can be finessed.</div>
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-- DON'T accidentally take your date's drink to the next table (and next date) with you. Pay attention to what you're doing.</div>
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-- DO know your selling points. If it's not your career -- and it can't always be -- come up with something you're good at.</div>
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-- DO act interested in what she's saying. Unless you just don't care.</div>
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But I am not giving up. I've told friends to keep on the lookout for suitable partners for me. I also have a couple of first dates next week with <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">men I've met online</a>. And yes -- expect me to get there first.</div>
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Thanks to <a href="http://edition.cnn.com/2012/11/01/living/boomers-dating-after-50/index.html" target="_blank">CNN</a> for this article!</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07158837356182609596noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8186328426810009303.post-77766778502894149802013-09-13T09:55:00.000+01:002013-09-13T10:06:30.285+01:00Am I Too Old To Date Again?<div style="background-color: white; color: #1d1d1d; font-family: latoregular, Arial; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-top: 1em;">
In today's world, people don't often realize <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">the importance of companionship</a> until later in life. Staying fit and physically and socially active increases your odds of finding someone to date, and also increases your libido and your chances of successful sex. But, beware of too much focus on the surface, and not enough content. Such relationships quickly become empty and stressful.</div>
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Older couples have many issues to work out while <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">dating</a>. They are established, with clear likes and dislikes, and may have difficulty reaching agreement on lifestyle issues. They often have grown families, who may have trouble accepting a parent's or grandparent's dating. They also have relationship experience, and a widow or widower, for example, may have trouble getting beyond the previous marriage, and <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">dealing with a different person</a>. The media focus on youth and fitness these days can make anyone feel insecure and unattractive. </div>
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<em>The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again,</em> shows you how to use the "get a life" method of pursuing your interests in a group fashion. Taking classes, supporting causes, or getting involved in civic, church or social groups will keep you interested, socially connected, and <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">give you a chance to find someone</a> with whom you have something in common. Focus on activities that you enjoy (sports, classes, or political, social, charitable or religious activities ) which involve meeting other people and creating a social circle. </div>
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If you are doing things that are meaningful to you, you'll automatically have something in common with anyone you meet there. It will also move your focus from desperation to something productive, which will bring out your most attractive character traits. As a bonus, you also get to observe that person around other people, which will tell you a lot about his/her character. <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">Dating</a> doesn't happen until you are already quite sure you two are mutually compatible and interested, and success is almost guaranteed.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07158837356182609596noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8186328426810009303.post-86316100890943471112013-09-10T14:01:00.000+01:002013-09-10T14:01:35.678+01:005 Reasons Over 50’s Dating Isn’t Working<h1 style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #e41a5b; font-family: Verdana; font-size: 1.883em !important; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1.2em; margin: 15px 0px 2px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 2px; text-align: left; vertical-align: baseline;">
<b style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; color: #030303; font-size: 15px; line-height: 25px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">You Believe There Is Only One Soul Mate Or Twin Flame For You</b></h1>
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Hollywood has done a number on your psyche when it comes to romance and finding love.</div>
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Falling in love is easy. It’s based on hormonal highs that make you feel like this special man in your life is magical and perfect for you.</div>
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Think of Jennifer Lopez and all the men she “fell in love with.” Once the high wore off, she moved on.</div>
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It’s more important to fall in LIKE with a man because once the magic wears off after 6 to 18 months, you’ll decide whether you want to build a life together. And chemistry is only a small part of that.</div>
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<b style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">You Must Have Immediate Chemistry</b></div>
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Chemistry is nice, but let’s face it…hot attraction is based on the need to mate and make babies.</div>
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Our DNA is engrained with the need to find the most handsome and strongest man out there so our babies had best chance of surviving in the caveman days.</div>
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Sex is very much alive after 50. It just doesn’t happen as often as it did when you were younger.</div>
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Both sexes can have sexual issues and even when attraction is there, the type of performance you did when you were younger is rarely sustainable at this age.</div>
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More important than chemistry will be the companionship and the emotional support the two of you will give each other that will far outlast the initial chemistry as you age.</div>
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Hollywood fooled you again in the movie<em style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"> Jerry McGuire</em> when Tom Cruise told the women he loved these three simple words…”You complete me!”</div>
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From that point on, men and women used this barometer as the measure for finding love.</div>
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The love of your life should compliment you, not complete you. If they have to complete you, you’re missing something in your own life that you’re looking to have fulfilled by someone else.</div>
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After a while, this makes you appear <strong style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">needy</strong> because you must have the other person to make your life okay.</div>
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It’s better when you each come into a relationship with your own interests and passions. These create a glow that is so appealing to the opposite sex.</div>
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Of course, having common interests is important too for sustaining a relationship over time but it’s your individual passion that will keep the relationship alive.</div>
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<b style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Only Wanting To Date The “Beautiful” People</b></div>
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The media has taught us to think a person is only valuable if they are beautiful or handsome. There’s a belief that having a handsome man on your arm raises your value to the world.</div>
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A relationship, especially after 50, is about far more than a handsome man. Plus as you age, your looks will come from the inner glow of wisdom and feeling good about who you are today.</div>
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Handsome men make great eye candy but most of us need more depth than this to create a deeper sustainable relationship. Don’t you agree?</div>
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Look at all the beautiful famous people you read about who are constantly breaking up or divorcing. Could it be the outer glow has worn off creating a desire to have something deeper?</div>
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<b style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Looking For Perfection</b></div>
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The casualty of divorce is you really don’t want to fail again. So you start looking for the perfect person.</div>
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On a coffee date, instead of getting to know a new and interesting man, you end up interviewing him for the position of your next serious relationship.</div>
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If he has one thing missing from the imaginary list you find yourself mentally checking off, you end the date and move on, never seeing him again.</div>
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When you were in your teens and 20’s, you found relationships with men by hanging out. You didn’t go on a first date trying to figure out if this man was your next spouse. No, you spent time hanging out just enjoying each other’s company. That’s how you fell in love.</div>
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At this stage of the game, everyone comes with a ton of baggage that no one really wants to deal with. What’s so wonderful about this time in your life is you can have all types of relationships with men. Consider ending the traditional idea of having to marry as your goal.</div>
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Get out there and meet men who would be fun to have as a companion to hang out with. Most people over 50 are lonely and could use a new friend in their life.</div>
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You never know, the person you passed up as your next spouse on the coffee date could over time turn out to be the greatest relationship of your over 50’s life. All you have to do is give it a chance.</div>
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1. Choose the online dating service that is right for you.</h2>
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There seems to be an almost endless amount of <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">dating sites</a> in existence. How can you possibly begin to navigate through them? First thing’s first: you have pay dating sites, like <em style="margin: 0px;">eHarmony</em> and <em style="margin: 0px;">Match.com</em>, and free sites such as <em style="margin: 0px;">PlentyOfFish</em> and <em style="margin: 0px;">OKCupid</em>. Free sites are a good starting point; a way to test the dating waters. You can set up a profile without hassle and get started right away. And if it doesn’t work out for you, or you decide <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">online dating</a> just isn’t your thing, at least you won’t feel like you wasted money.</div>
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Pay sites, however, tend to be more in-depth, and cover more compatibility areas so that they can help you find the best matches. They also often offer the benefit of having more “serious” members; those who are actively searching for a partner and not just trolling the internet for cheap dates. That’s not to say that creeps and weirdos and low-lifes don’t exist on all dating sites… because they most definitely do.</div>
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There are also a lot of <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">niche dating sites</a>. There are dating sites for book lovers, art lovers, horse lovers, and all other manner of lovers; stoners, little people, people who have STDS, and even for specifically for inmates, sea captains, or farmers. And that’s only to name a VERY FEW. There really is a site for everyone.</div>
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And hey, if you’re looking for something a little naughtier, there are a lot of dating sites available that specialize in casual hookups between sexually open-minded adults, such as: <a href="http://www.wwwdatingguide.com/review/xxxconnect-review/" style="border-bottom-color: rgb(101, 198, 249); border-bottom-style: dotted; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: black; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank" title="XXXConnect">XXXConnect</a>, <a href="http://www.wwwdatingguide.com/review/socialsex-review/" style="border-bottom-color: rgb(101, 198, 249); border-bottom-style: dotted; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: black; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank" title="SocialSex">SocialSex</a>, or<a href="http://www.wwwdatingguide.com/review/naughtymeetings-review/" style="border-bottom-color: rgb(101, 198, 249); border-bottom-style: dotted; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: black; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank" title="NaughtyMeetings">NaughtyMeetings</a>.</div>
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Once you have an idea of the site(s) you’d like to join, do your research; read reviews, and find out what other people think. There are tons of dating site <a href="http://www.wwwdatingguide.com/reviews/" style="border-bottom-color: rgb(101, 198, 249); border-bottom-style: dotted; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: black; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank" title="reviews">reviews</a> on this site, just FYI.</div>
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2. Be honest!</h2>
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This is one piece of dating advice that should be followed regardless of whether you are <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">dating online</a> or not. If you are not honest about who you are, you are not going to attract someone who is compatible with you. I know it’s tempting to exaggerate a little, especially online, but all you are doing is setting both yourself and your potential date up for disappointment.</div>
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You should never be focused on convincing someone that you’re “good enough” to be with. They should want to spend time with you because they truly appreciate and desire the person that you are. And the best way to find that person is to be as honest as you can in the way you present yourself. Don’t make your profile reflect what you think people want; just make it <span style="margin: 0px; text-decoration: underline;"><em style="margin: 0px;">you</em></span>.<br style="margin: 0px;" /><img alt="online-dating-advice-be-yourself" class="wp-image-1867 aligncenter" height="248" src="http://www.wwwdatingguide.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/aladdin__bee_yourself_by_janetateher-d5lny3r.jpeg" style="border: 0px; clear: both; display: block; height: auto; margin: 0px auto; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: middle;" title="online-dating-advice-be-honest" width="441" />Be thorough when completing your profile. Answer/fill out all the sections and remember: <em style="margin: 0px;">honesty! </em>I have seen countless bare-bones dating site profiles that offer you no more than the most basic information about the person.</div>
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3. Choose an appropriate username.</h2>
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Go ahead, be witty, be funny, be risque. But make sure to understand what your username will say about you. You want it to be a representation of you and what you’re looking to get out of this site, but you also don’t want it to be off-putting to other members. Don’t be <em style="margin: 0px;">NiceGuyKevin72</em>. Don’t be <em style="margin: 0px;">CatCrazedCathy101</em>. And for the love of God, don’t be <em style="margin: 0px;">SoWet4U </em>unless you’re prepared for the consequences. Or, you’ve decided to join one of the raunchier dating sites – then, by all means, be “<em style="margin: 0px;">SoWet</em>” for whoever you want! <img alt="online-dating-advice-profile-username" class=" wp-image-1872 aligncenter" height="514" src="http://www.wwwdatingguide.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/tumblr_m84t5fKbeX1qkydfto1_500.jpeg" style="border: 0px; clear: both; display: block; height: auto; margin: 0px auto; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: middle;" title="online-dating-advice-usernames" width="450" /></div>
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4. Show your best side with your profile picture.</h2>
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We’ve all seen horrible and creepy online dating profile pictures: the shirtless 55-year-old proudly showing off his latest piece of roadkilll, the jacked dude smirking wildly amongst his sizable gun collection, and things that are just plain weird. But bad quality, low angle webcam photos and photoshopped pictures are just as bad.</div>
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Often times members are given a split-second judgement based <span style="margin: 0px;">on their profile picture. It’s a sad, but accurate truth. And when your face is lost in a sea of other faces, you need to be sure you’re putting your best foot.. er, face.. forward.</span></div>
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First, use a recent photo! I can’t stress this enough. You have to be honest about your looks too! So, don’t use your high school graduation photo. And don’t use that photo from when you were in your best friend’s wedding party 10 years ago. And don’t use that photo of you in a bikini from 1995. Just don’t, okay? Potential matches want to know what you look like <em style="margin: 0px;">now</em>. Choose a photo that shows your face. One where you look happy, you’re smiling naturally, even laughing maybe. Choose a photo from a time you were having a good day. It shows in the photo.</div>
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Second, don’t use photos of you with other people. Members want to see YOU. They don’t want to see you surrounded by all your lady friends (this goes for guys AND girls!) And if you’re in the photo with someone of the same gender, how are potential dates supposed to know which one you are?? Keep the focus on you, and you alone.</div>
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And fellas? Keep your shirt on. That’s not what we’re interested in, and is in fact often times a complete turn-off. Oh, and while we’re on the topic, there is NO EXCUSE for mirror photos. I don’t need to know what your bathroom looks like. How hard is it to get someone to snap a photo of you? Better yet, raid your friends’ Facebook and Instagram accounts; they are sure to have photos of you that look more natural.<br style="margin: 0px;" /><img alt="online-dating-advice-shirtless-profile-photo" class="size-full wp-image-1895 aligncenter" height="344" src="http://www.wwwdatingguide.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/5vQBx3l.jpeg" style="border: 0px; clear: both; display: block; height: auto; margin: 0px auto; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: middle;" title="online-dating-advice-mirror-photo" width="250" />And don’t forget, most sites allow you to add multiple photos, so once you’ve chosen a stellar profile picture, feel free to add all those other photos of yourself. The more the better!</div>
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If you’re on a <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">niche dating site</a>, be sure to show off why it is you’re on the site! Joined a site for cat lovers? Put your little fur baby in the picture with you! Joined a site that connects travel lovers? Put up a photo from your last exotic vacation! And if you decide to join one of the more “adult” sites, you’re going to get much better results if you submit a raunchy profile picture. If you’re brave enough, show a little skin (or a lot!).</div>
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5. BE IN IT TO WIN IT</h2>
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Approach <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">online dating</a> as you would a job search. Present yourself in the best possible light. Show potential matches why you’re so amazing. And use proper spelling/grammar/structure! There’s no reason not to and not doing so will only make you look juvenile and blasé.</div>
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And, as you should do with a resume or cover letter, get a friend to proofread and look over your profile for you. A second opinion can be invaluable.</div>
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Just like with a job search, <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">online dating</a> is a numbers game. Send out lots of messages! And don’t get discouraged if you don’t hear back from people. Not everyone is right for everyone else. When you get replies, take it slow – talk about mutual interests and find out what else you might have in common. Don’t be afraid to set up lots of dates! Go have a good time!</div>
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I hope that this advice will help you to make your profile as great as it can be so you’re able to find what you’re looking for in a match. Good luck!</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07158837356182609596noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8186328426810009303.post-69746873474505613582013-08-30T10:52:00.003+01:002013-08-30T10:52:57.806+01:00One Year Of Online Dating<div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #444444; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 20px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">
Really good blog on Dating Over 50!<a href="http://1yearofonlinedatingat50.com/" target="_blank"> http://1yearofonlinedatingat50.com/</a> Read it!</div>
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“You’ve got to get out there while you’re still young enough to get a guy,” he said recently, and then added, “Your husband’s been gone a long time. What are you waiting for?”</div>
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“Good morning,” would’ve sufficed, but he certainly knew better than most the small life I was living. Borderline shut in I spent my days writing, took a few night classes, and occasionally went out with friends, but men? Hardly.</div>
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It was difficult to see myself in a new relationship while still in love with someone else. That was the dilemma. It was the biggest kind of love–one for the record books. Imagine if the perfect person, tailor-made, came into your life. That’s what happened to me. I knew it the moment I saw his face–like finding something I had forgotten I’d lost. After being alone for a decade, focused on raising my daughters, I finally had my fairy-tale ending.</div>
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Five years. That’s how long we were together, and then he died.</div>
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Today is an anniversary of sorts, and one I’ve dreaded. My husband has been gone longer than I knew him. I couldn’t fathom a life without him, but excruciatingly slowly I’ve learned to accept the reality of my situation. After five tough years, I’m open to the possibility of someone new in my life and ready to love again.</div>
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Two years ago I got in my car and drove from Las Vegas to Manhattan. I gave away most of my possessions and shipped only what would fit in my tiny apartment. Armed with a rough manuscript of a memoir I’d just complete (our story) and a newfound passion for writing, I thought I would immerse myself in the heart of the literary world and see if I could make something happen. Leaving all that was safe and familiar seemed crazy to many, but after losing the life I thought was mine I felt fearless.</div>
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Now that I was ready to love again, how would a 50-year-old widow living in New York City meet men? It’s hard for any single woman here where the ladies outnumber the guys but especially so when your life is spent alone hunched over a computer trying to be a writer. Gorgeous girls with Ivy educations and successful careers sit at home solo on Saturday nights in this city. What were my chances?</div>
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The answer was obvious. I’d have to jump into online dating where thousands of single men were a click away from my dance card. My friend, an Internet dating expert, called it a numbers game. Most people go on a site, get disgusted after several bad dates and delete their profile. She said I must commit to a year and prepare to kiss a pond-full of amphibians.</div>
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Just the thought of my photos and profile on a dating website for 365 days made me jittery. I realized the stigma associated with online dating had diminished but there was something that felt, well, <em style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">desperado.</em></div>
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BUT, the sooner I get started the quicker it might happen and this blog will document the process. If you’re considering online dating or just want to read about one middle-aged woman’s quest for love you can follow along. I’m in for a year, unless George Clooney calls or I meet my Cyber Prince Charming.</div>
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“We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” Joseph Campbell</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Do</strong> take the time to get your profile right. Spend some time making sure your profile is as good as it can be and that it accurately reflects your personality. <br style="border: 0px; display: block; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 4px; padding: 0px;" /><br style="border: 0px; display: block; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 4px; padding: 0px;" /><strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Do</strong> concentrate on the written word. Make sure anything you publish on the net communicates the qualities you want to portray. <br style="border: 0px; display: block; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 4px; padding: 0px;" /><br style="border: 0px; display: block; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 4px; padding: 0px;" /><strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Do</strong> make your first message count. Ensure it reads like a personal message by mentioning a few things from the person’s profile and interests that caught your eye and made you want to get in touch.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Don’t</strong> misrepresent yourself on your profile. It’s best not to use old photos for your profile picture and be completely honest about your hobbies and interests. <br style="border: 0px; display: block; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 4px; padding: 0px;" /><br style="border: 0px; display: block; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 4px; padding: 0px;" /><strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Don't</strong> let a bad dating experience get you down. <br style="border: 0px; display: block; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 4px; padding: 0px;" /><br style="border: 0px; display: block; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 4px; padding: 0px;" /><strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Don’t</strong> be afraid to make the first move.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Do</strong> accept dates with people who aren't your “type”.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Do </strong>meet first dates in a public place and always let a friend or family member know where you'll be.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Do</strong> make online dating a priority.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Don't</strong> use a selfie as your profile photo! It looks like you don't have any friends!</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Don't</strong> respond to every email that you receive-unless you really want to.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Don't</strong> wait for someone you're interested in to message you first!</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Do</strong> be on time. Even slight lateness can set a miserable tone for the rest of the date.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Do</strong> be clean. You'd be surprised how often dates turn up without showering.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Do</strong> contribute to the conversation. It's great that you're "a good listener" but you're wrong if you think letting someone do all the talking makes for a great date.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Don't</strong> go for dinner on the first date. Once you're sitting at a table with this stranger, you're trapped until the bill comes – and they could be a very slow eater and dull to boot.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Don't </strong>arrive drunk or come from somewhere else where you've been drinking.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Don't</strong> lie on your dating profile. If you really want this to go somewhere, you'll have to be honest.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Do</strong> remember that this is a dating site, not a job interview. Use your profile as a trailer, not the full movie.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Don't</strong> sit idle. Aim for about ten new messages a day in order to get noticed by other users, and the site's algorithm.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Don't </strong>cut and paste. It's pretty easy to spot a generic "I send this to all the girls" message, and it won't do you any favours. Personalised messages stand out much more. and get a real dialogue going.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Don't</strong> mention how you promise you won't ever tell anyone you met online. The stigma attached to online dating is long gone. Be proud that you're being proactive in your search for love.</div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; font-weight: normal;">Just ask loved-up Stella Ansell, 69, and her 72-year-old husband Peter. The newly married couple of 'silver surfers' from West Sussex were both widowed earlier in life, but they found love again with each other on the internet just two years ago.</span></h1>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; font-weight: normal;">Encouraged by family members who didn't want them to be alone after their partners died, they both took to the world wide web to find a companion.</span></h1>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; font-weight: normal;">Stella, 69, and Peter, 72, who met online in 2010 and are now engaged.</span></h1>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; font-weight: normal;">Joining a <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">well known dating website</a>, they were matched in 2010 because they're energetic, vibrant, adventurous and love doing things together.</span></h1>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; font-weight: normal;">Moreover, websites catering <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">solely for the over-50 demographic</a> are appearing all over the internet, offering their services to the more mature dater.</span></h1>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; font-weight: normal;">Sites such as <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">www.datingover50uk.com</a> are all offering those over the age of 50 the opportunity to find romance.</span></h1>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; font-weight: normal;">Stella, who was alone for two years after her first husband died before joining <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">the online site</a>, told MailOnline: 'It's very difficult making the transitions from being a carer, to being on your own, to deciding to look for someone else.</span></h1>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; font-weight: normal;">'With <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">online dating</a> you don't need to worry about that because you're already meeting someone who is in the same position as you.</span></h1>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; font-weight: normal;">'Perhaps if I was 40 it would have been different, but in my sixties I wanted someone who had experienced what I had.'</span></h1>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; font-weight: normal;"><a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">Websites catering solely for the over-50 demographic</a> are appearing all over the internet, offering their services to the more mature dater.</span></h1>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; font-weight: normal;">Stella said: 'It was almost horrendous! We chose to meet in a cosy pub in between us but on the day we picked there was a complete snowstorm and we were both absolutely snowed in!</span></h1>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; font-weight: normal;">'We both walked up to the door of the pub and there was a sign saying it was closed for refurbishment! Luckily, we both laughed, which was a good sign, and we took ourselves off for coffee...which lasted five hours'</span></h1>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; font-weight: normal;">'Go to a website that looks into the type of person you really are, and matches you properly. There are sites out there that are just for a one-off date, but if that's not what you're looking for then be more thorough'.</span></h1>
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I hate to say it but there's serious competition out there based on the numbers from the Census Bureau. For <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">online dating</a> spend time writing a profile that shows you in the best light. Get a friend's opinion on the final draft. And if you don't have a great photo, ask that same friend to snap a nice candid shot for you to post. </div>
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Have a simple and flattering first date outfit already in the closet -- like a uniform. When you have that first date, you don't have to agonize over what to where, how it fits, how you'll look. You'll already know and be able to head to meet Mr. Maybe-Right with a little less stress. And the best thing to show on the first date is the real you. At 50+, who has time for being anything but authentic. </div>
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<strong style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">2. Don't settle.</strong></div>
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I'm not looking for Prince Charming anymore -- I went to his funeral years ago. As I've gotten older, <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">my ideal date</a> is kind, smart, emotionally available (did I say that already?), thoughtful and not addicted to any substance other than chocolate or coffee. Have you made a list of the qualities you'd like to find in the people you date at this point in life? It helps you get real clear -- again -- on what works and what's non-negotiable for you in a relationship. If someone doesn't measure up, don't settle for less than what you want. </div>
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<strong style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">3. Lighten Up</strong></div>
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When I was young, I took the<a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank"> whole dating thing</a> so seriously. As I think back on it, the end goal was to get married and have a family -- at least that's what I learned back in the day. Now I don't really worry about getting married again. So I'm less wedded -- not to make a pun -- to the end result and more to the journey in a relationship. </div>
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I've also accepted that sometimes I meet someone who just not that into me. If you haven't read <a class="external-link" href="http://www.amazon.com/Hes-Just-That-Into-Understanding/dp/068987474X" style="background-image: url(http://www.blogher.com/sites/all/modules/custom/elf/elf.png); background-position: 100% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat; border: 0px; color: #516bb3; margin: 0px; padding: 0px 12px 0px 0px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_blank"><span style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; color: purple; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">the book </span></span></a>by that name, it's enlightening-- and liberating. From Kathryn Lord, <a class="external-link" href="http://www.blogher.com/frame.php?url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.find-a-sweetheart.com%2F&_back=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.blogher.com%2F7-ways-survive-dating-over-50" style="background-image: url(http://www.blogher.com/sites/all/modules/custom/elf/elf.png); background-position: 100% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat; border: 0px; color: #516bb3; margin: 0px; padding: 0px 12px 0px 0px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_blank"><span style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; color: #0066cc; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">the Romance Coach</span></span></a>, here are a few signs that a man just isn't that into you:</div>
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<li style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">He tells you he's just not that into you.</li>
<li style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">He tells you he isn't ready to settle down into a relationship.</li>
<li style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Doesn't give you a hug or a kiss goodbye.</li>
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Sound familiar?</div>
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<strong style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">4. Protect yourself in all ways possible.</strong> </div>
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First, don't share personal information, like your contact info until you've really gotten a comfort level with someone. For instance, keep your email private which the <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">top online dating sites</a> always do for you. If you decide to talk with someone on the phone, call them and *67 before you dial their number so your phone number isn't revealed. </div>
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When you're ready to meet someone in person -- coffee in a very public place is a good first date -- advise a friend where you're going and that you will call after you leave. My sister and I have this arrangement and it works well. Once I progress to a longer date, like dinner, my sister knows to call at a certain time. As I answer the call in front of my date, I apologize and jokingly explain how my sister and I look out for one another because my date -- and yours -- should know that someone cares about us. </div>
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The other way to protect yourself is at the point you decide to take a new relationship into intimacy. The bottom line is that over 50, we need our own stash of <a class="external-link" href="http://www.blogher.com/frame.php?url=http%3A%2F%2Fen.wikipedia.org%2Fwiki%2FCondom&_back=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.blogher.com%2F7-ways-survive-dating-over-50" style="background-image: url(http://www.blogher.com/sites/all/modules/custom/elf/elf.png); background-position: 100% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat; border: 0px; color: #516bb3; margin: 0px; padding: 0px 12px 0px 0px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_blank"><span style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; color: purple; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">condoms</span></span></a> and -- no you can't depend on the other person to have one. Nancy over at <a class="external-link" href="http://www.blogher.com/frame.php?url=http%3A%2F%2Fwellpast50.blogs.com%2Fwell_past_50%2F2007%2F12%2Fcondoms-what-a.html&_back=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.blogher.com%2F7-ways-survive-dating-over-50" style="background-image: url(http://www.blogher.com/sites/all/modules/custom/elf/elf.png); background-position: 100% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat; border: 0px; color: #516bb3; margin: 0px; padding: 0px 12px 0px 0px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_blank"><span style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; color: purple; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Boomerful</span></span></a>, who found herself single in midlife, reports that: </div>
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After more than a year of being single, what I have learned is this: Condoms are a fact of life. Don't consider any other way, unless you are really monogamous and have both been tested. If you are in bed with a guy and he doesn't have the guts to use a condom ... or he tries to convince you that one isn't needed ... <em style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">RUN</em>. He is not worth a conversation, much less your body fluids and possibly your life.</div>
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If you're timid about buying a box of condoms from your friendly neighborhood pharmacist -- it is a weird feeling -- then you can buy them <a class="external-link" href="http://www.blogher.com/frame.php?url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.condomdepot.com%2F&_back=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.blogher.com%2F7-ways-survive-dating-over-50" style="background-image: url(http://www.blogher.com/sites/all/modules/custom/elf/elf.png); background-position: 100% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat; border: 0px; color: #516bb3; margin: 0px; padding: 0px 12px 0px 0px; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_blank"><span style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; color: purple; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">online</span></span></a>.</div>
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<strong style="background-color: transparent; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">5. Enjoy yourself.</strong> </div>
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This one sounds easy but I'm not quite there. It's a goal I haven't quite reached yet in this new world of dating over 50. I'm hopeful, though.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07158837356182609596noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8186328426810009303.post-83898862643042334982013-07-02T10:11:00.000+01:002013-07-02T10:11:23.342+01:00Do's And Dont's Of Online Dating<div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px;">
<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Do</strong> accept dates with people who aren't your “type”.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Do </strong>meet first dates in a public place and always let a friend or family member know where you'll be.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Do</strong> make <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">online dating</a> a priority.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Don't</strong> use a selfie as your profile photo! It looks like you don't have any friends!</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Don't</strong> wait for someone you're interested in to message you first!</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Do</strong> remember that <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">this is a dating site</a>, not a job interview. Use your profile as a trailer, not the full movie.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Do</strong> actually date. Get out and meet in real life!</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Don't</strong> sit idle. Aim for about ten new messages a day in order to get noticed by other users, and the site's algorithm.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Don't </strong>cut and paste. It's pretty easy to spot a generic "I send this to all the girls" message, and it won't do you any favours. Personalised messages stand out much more. and get a real dialogue going.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Don't</strong> mention how you promise you won't ever tell anyone you met online. The stigma attached to <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">online dating</a> is long gone. Be proud that you're being proactive in your search for love.</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07158837356182609596noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8186328426810009303.post-68106475970229836472013-06-18T08:29:00.001+01:002013-06-18T08:29:48.486+01:00Avoiding First Date Faux Pas (Part 2): What Never To Talk About On A First Date<div id="blog_title" style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="color: dimgrey; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 17px;">Last </span></span><span style="color: #111111; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;">month's</span></span><span style="color: #111111; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;"> article (</span><em style="border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">"Avoiding First Date Faux Pas Part 1: What Never to Do on a First Date"</em><span style="color: #111111; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;">), we discussed what never to do on a first date (with a few additional great suggestions from readers). This month's Dating Faux Pas Prevention continues with another subject of concern to many; what are the two of you going to talk about on that first date? Even though this is one of the most common dating questions that I receive, I am instead sharing something far more important... what</span><span style="color: #111111; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;"> </span><em style="border: 0px; color: #111111; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">not</em><span style="color: #111111; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;"> </span><span style="color: #111111; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;">to talk about on the <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">first date</a>:</span></h1>
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<br style="border: 0px; display: block; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 4px; padding: 0px;" /><strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">**Don't discuss wanting to get married or have children: </strong>Obviously, if you have previously been married and/or if you have children, this is going to be a topic of discussion. Further, there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to get married, get remarried, have children or have <em style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">more</em> children. However, future marriage plans and reproductive goals are not appropriate first-date conversation topics. You do not want your date feeling as though they are going to be dragged to a jewelry store after knowing you for all of two hours. And a side note to the gentlemen: Guys, this may seem obvious but <em style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">please</em> do not propose on a first date -- it is neither cute, nor is it romantic. It is just plain creepy (and yes, it does happen).</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">**Don't discuss personal finances; either yours or theirs: </strong>Talking about the current state of the national or world economy is fine and certainly a timely subject. However, discussing personal financial situations should remain off limits. In fact, I believe that until an exclusive relationship is established, finances should remain private.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">**Don't engage in overtly sexual discussion:</strong> Playful flirting is fun; it's <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">part of the dating process </a>and it makes us feel good. However, imagine my own disgust when several years ago, one of my simultaneous first-and-last dates started describing one of his particular sexual predilections -- in <em style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">extremely</em> explicit detail and about ten minutes into the date. This was not flirting... this was <em style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">frightening.</em> I am by no means a prude but seriously, the only thing that this winner was lacking was a diagram.</div>
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I said it last month and I will say it again... what message do you <em style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">really </em>want to send? Playful flirting suggests that you are attracted to one another. Graphic descriptions of sexual scenarios in which you would like to engage immediately after meeting someone suggests that you drive a windowless van without license plates.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">**Don't get into specific details as to how your previous marriage or relationship ended:</strong> It is perfectly normal to reveal a few details of how your previous relationship situation ended. However, do not go into a great amount of detail on the first date, as you might easily give the impression that you are still going through the earlier stages of the recovery process. For example most of the people I dated would inquire as to the circumstances surrounding my late husband's death. I would tell them that he had battled Lou Gehrig's disease (because not many people are familiar with the term "ALS") and the usual response was, <em style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">"I'm so sorry."</em> I then replied, <em style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">"Thank you,"</em> and that was it. I would not go into any further details until or unless a relationship ensued.</div>
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The previous-relationship discussion certainly can and should take place if a relationship develops; however, discussing your past too soon, especially with great passion (whether that passion manifests as anger, sadness, tears or longing) will give the impression that you are not yet ready to date. If you are still recovering from the end of your previous relationship, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that; however, if that is the case, you may wish to consider stepping back from <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">dating</a> for the time being.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">**Don't discuss illnesses/ailments/family issues: </strong>You do not want to lead with what is considered to be extremely personal information. For example, if you or a loved one has overcome a serious illness or disorder, that is fantastic and definitely cause for celebration; however, it is not a suitable first-date topic -- remember, your date is someone brand new to your life. The same thing goes for any kind of issues within your family (estate battles, divorce battles, custody battles, difficulty with children, finances, family estrangements, an unfortunate childhood, etc.). Again, these are definitely discussions that you can and should have once a relationship establishes; however, leading with these kinds of disclosures on a first date screams <em style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">"Way too much information way too soon".</em></div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">**Don't discuss job or career difficulties: </strong>It is entirely acceptable to discuss your careers on a first date; this is conversation that gives you a great sneak peek into the person with whom you are sitting. Moreover, and regardless of the social situation or scenario, one of the first questions that we are usually asked is, <em style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">"What do you do?</em>" However, if you are experiencing difficulties at work (a bullying boss or co-worker, a round of layoffs, etc.), keep that information to yourself for the moment and instead talk about why you love your career. If you are not especially happy in your current career, talk instead about the career to which you aspire and why.</div>
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I once again congratulate you on your willingness to <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">venture back out into the World of Dating</a>. Doing so means that despite the pain that you have suffered with the end of your previous marriage or relationship, you also acknowledge your life is meant to be lived to the fullest in every respect and if you choose it, that life can and should include companionship and love.</div>
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<strong style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Carole's latest book, "Happily Even After..." has won the prestigious Books for a Better Life Award. For more information about Carole Brody Fleet and Widows Wear Stilettos, please visit www.widowswearstilettos.com</strong></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07158837356182609596noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8186328426810009303.post-40117121588522090572013-06-04T14:29:00.001+01:002013-06-04T14:29:31.927+01:00'Why Bother Looking For Love at This Stage?' One Woman Asked<div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; margin-bottom: 14px; padding: 0px;">
Why am I still <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">open to a new relationship</a>-still in this often difficult and sometimes even painful game?</div>
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In the comments section of my blog, a question one reader posed just stopped me in my tracks. Her comment: "When are we (and by 'we' I assume she mainly meant me) going to finally stop looking for a new man for this latter part of our lives when so many of us have already created such full, busy, fulfilling, wonderful lives? Do we really need to put up with the potential needs, demands and idiosyncrasies that <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">any man we find online</a> would put on us, for potentially minimal return on our investment?"</div>
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I appreciate comments, because many are thought-provoking. This one, though, made me sad, because of what I see as her resignation. If I understand exactly what she's saying, she wants "us" older women to give up the hunt and accept that we've already had our time as part of a loving, passionate relationship, be it a marriage or other form of companionship. So ladies, that game is over for us, let's just give up the Quixotic quest, settle down to old age and find fulfillment with family and friends, clients and associates if we're still working, grand-kids if we have any, dogs, cats, books, and favourite TV shows? Anyone for golf, bridge, canasta?</div>
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Perhaps this strategy has worked for this commenter. Perhaps it has even brought her happiness or at least contentment. But I personally am not resigned. I was a happily married woman and knew what it was to have a solid, beautiful relationship. I have also never resigned from anything in my life and don't intend to now. Yes, this "<a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">online dating</a>" thing is not easy. You need to become adept at reading between the lines. You need to have a sharp ear for what's not said. You need to sift through some "little white lies" and some big ones too...like the 'midweek dater' who took me out to one of the best restaurants in the city (which by the way does not impress me; I am happy in a diner with the right guy). Over champagne in icy chilled glasses (well okay that was quite nice!) he asked me out again--for another Tuesday night---then offered every excuse possible about why he could not be available to date on weekends. Well, every excuse except that four letter word the starts with W and ends with E. Just put IF in the middle and you have his real reason! Who falls for these things?</div>
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The selection process is harder now than it was at an earlier age, because of the illusions and delusions you have to push through. If there is a next life, maybe I'll come back as a male. If I do come back as a guy and wind up on <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">match.com</a> at this same age I am now, 72, or even older, and write in my profile as so many men do, that I want to meet women "35 to 45" or some equally inappropriate age ranges, please just kill me. You have my written permission.</div>
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Give up looking for love, again? Never! I know what intimacy is, and I want it again, in this life, not the next.</div>
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When I read her comment, I also wondered if this woman would give this advice to men about not bothering to look for love one last time. One of the men I dated a couple of times was a Harvard-trained doctor, a brilliant conversationalist and a world traveller with energy and much love and affection to share. He is a young 88. Turned out he wanted someone in a similar situation: retired and able to travel regularly with him. Tempting as that was I am so far away from retirement I can't even see that distant shore. Plus, yes, his age was a consideration. My point is that this sweet man, even at age 88, was sure not ready to give up his one more chance at the brass ring. He wants a loving woman on his arm, in his bed and next to him in the first class or river cruise cabin. And why not, when he richly deserves it! Do we want to play it safe, and eventually die in a nursing home, drooling and in diapers, or play big, make love on the high seas, and maybe never have to go down that slippery slope...?</div>
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Yes, Virginia, there are many delusional people in this world! But as long as there is hope and goodness and <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">online dating</a> I will keep believing in this particular Santa Claus: the one that will one day deliver another great man to my door, and have him stay with me right through to the end, in my daily life, in my bed, and always, making me laugh.</div>
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It would help if he can cook, since I am hopeless in the kitchen. I nuked a potato in the microwave recently. I didn't know you should only leave it in for about six minutes so I put it in for an hour. I was still clueless, even as the smoke alarm went off and the entire apartment filled with smoke. When I opened the microwave door, all I saw sitting here was a tiny black marble. I nuked a potato! Okay, that is not my area of genius. A man who can laugh at my human failings and foibles will earn my trust and love, and I will do the same for him.</div>
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People have asked how "that date" went, the one I wrote about last week in my first Huffington Post blog. Are you ready for this? I did tell him that I "might" write about dating for the HP (because, frankly, I didn't want him to ask to see anything and know I already wrote about him). He said, "Great. I'll help you with the research, because you will need a man's POV. So can you set me up with Martha Stewart? Not that I'm interested in her. I would do it for you. I'll report back on our date, and you can write it up."</div>
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He was serious! As kindly as I could, I told him people were already setting Martha up with men like Liam Neeson and Tim Robbins. Did he (living on modest income, admitted he could not "perform") really think he had a chance with her? I did ask him that, but did NOT mention his shortcomings. I figured he would know what I meant. "Oh sure," he said without hesitation, completely confident he had what it takes. "Martha would really like me. I would be a refreshing change. A real person, not some entertainer."</div>
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'Some entertainer' eh? Ok, going back to delusional, as I said, it isn't always easy to deal with. But, since we all have a touch of it, let's be kind to each other. Of course I will never see this man again. Interestingly, I was debating how to break our next date, and decided to send him an email, and then call. He actually took it real well, saying he understood. "You live in Manhattan and I live in New Jersey. The commute is just too difficult." Let him live with that belief, that it's the commute, and let him find his own way to Martha Stewart. I have 24 more interesting matches in my inbox right now, and I am going to answer a few.</div>
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But I do have another amazing story to tell you next week...about a much younger man who wrote to me, and a story that a woman told me that will make any disappointment you might have most likely pale in comparison.</div>
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In the week and months ahead, unless someone shuts me down, there will be happy stories, funny stories, poignant stories and more, all true, and all meant to help light the way and make your journey down this road perhaps a little bit brighter, so stay tuned. And please do share your own thoughts and stories with me.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07158837356182609596noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8186328426810009303.post-56760656479103326702013-05-29T13:10:00.001+01:002013-05-29T13:10:53.377+01:00Men Over 50 -- May I Give You Some Dating Advice?<div style="background-color: white; border: 0px; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; list-style: none; margin-bottom: 14px; padding: 0px;">
I've been dabbling in <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">online dating</a>, and I'm actually enjoying it. I realize that my enjoyment goes hand in hand with not having anything at stake, no enormous expectations. I'm not looking to replace my beloved husband, who died in 2008. (That would be impossible.) I don't need to find someone to give my life meaning and joy, because my life already has meaning and joy.</div>
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I do want to bring more male energy into my life, get to know men who are not already in my sphere of friends, enjoy a new companion. There's a lot of joie de vivre in me, and I'd like to share that. If it results in connecting with someone and rocking each other's world, that's a big bonus.</div>
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I wrote this comment on a message board for women over 50 in response to one person who was scared to date:</div>
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If you think of dating as your way to learn about another person and about yourself without risking anything, it can be fun -- go for coffee or a walk or dinner with someone new, talk, see what you both enjoy discussing and doing. It's when you think of dating as auditioning a potential soulmate that it becomes fraught with anxiety, unpleasantness, and emotional danger.<div class="ql" style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">
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I really enjoy first dates. I'm interested in learning what we do and don't have in common, and which of the divergences matter a lot. Plus, the writer in me loves hearing people's stories, and first dates are a great way to learn a huge amount in an hour, because it's expected that we share our stories.</div>
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Although I'm newly dating after 12 years, I already have some strong opinions about <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">online dating</a> do's and don't's. Here are a few, aimed at men because that's my experience. Are the same true of women, or are there other things that women typically do that irk you?</div>
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<li class="last" style="border: 0px; list-style: decimal inside; margin: 0px 0px 4px 35px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 5px;">Make your default photo just you -- no buddies on a fishing trip, no arms around a woman who might be your daughter or maybe your ex-wife, and absolutely no edited photo with the woman at your side cropped out (we can tell)!</li>
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<li style="border: 0px; list-style: decimal inside; margin: 0px 0px 4px 35px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 5px;">Please give your real age and body build. If we'll eliminate you if you're older or heavier than attracts us, so be it -- that would happen once we met anyway. By the way, I'm learning that "average" build/body type can mean 30-50 pounds overweight. Is it true for women's profiles, too, guys?</li>
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I know that none of this advice applies only to people over 50 (except maybe for the 1969 hairstyle), but those of us who are <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">starting to date again</a> at this age may feel that all the rules have changed since we last did this. And they're right!</div>
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====<br style="border: 0px; display: block; list-style: none; margin: 0px 0px 4px; padding: 0px;" />Ageless sexuality advocate <a href="http://www.joanprice.com/" style="border: 0px; color: #6a5bff; cursor: pointer; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_hplink">Joan Price</a> is the author of <i style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1580053386/ref=nosim/joanprice-20" style="border: 0px; color: #6a5bff; cursor: pointer; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_hplink">Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex</a></i> and <i style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1580051529/ref=nosim/joanprice-20" style="border: 0px; color: #6a5bff; cursor: pointer; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_hplink">Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty</a></i>.<i style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Naked at Our Age</i> won Outstanding Self-Help Book 2012 from the American Society of Journalists and Authors and Best Book 2012 from the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. Joan edited the new steamy senior sex anthology,<a href="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1580054412/ref=nosim/joanprice-20" style="border: 0px; color: #6a5bff; cursor: pointer; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><i style="border: 0px; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Ageless Erotica</i></a>. Visit her zesty, award-winning blog about sex and aging at<a href="http://www.nakedatourage.com/" style="border: 0px; color: #6a5bff; cursor: pointer; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_hplink">http://www.NakedAtOurAge.com</a>, where Joan continues to talk out loud about Boomer/ senior sex, partnered or solo.</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07158837356182609596noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8186328426810009303.post-54869203207030067942013-05-20T14:27:00.000+01:002013-05-20T14:27:04.955+01:00Is It All About Sex?<br />
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<span style="color: #2f3241; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 20px;">For <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">mature daters</a>, re-entering the dating game can be a shocking and intimidating experience. Most likely, you've been in serious, long term relationships or have been married - so you haven’t had to worry about things like first dates or when to sleep with someone for the first time…and it can seem like sex is everywhere.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #2f3241; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 20px;">If you've been out of practice for awhile, here’s a little refresher course! Men thrive on attraction and love a good challenge, so giving it all up at the beginning quickly bores him. Some women believe that the only way to get a guy to call them again is to get physical too soon…these are the women who usually end up waiting by the phone wondering why he disappeared.</span></span></div>
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Men are able to separate sex and emotions, where women have more of a difficult time doing this-it’s just how we are wired. Spark his attraction by posing a challenge and by not letting him get what he wants, at least not right away. You can be sexy without resorting to sex, and any man worth your time realizes this. Making him wait for a bit before sleeping with him also shows you what his true intentions are-if he’s only in it for sex, chances are he won’t stay around waiting very long-he’ll move onto an easier target.</div>
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<span style="color: #2f3241; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 20px;">Getting physical should be on your terms, and only when you feel completely ready. Ignore what you think you “should” do to keep his interest…only do what feels right for you, as cliché as it is. Don’t try to keep up with anyone else, or rely totally on the physical to form a connection. </span></span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07158837356182609596noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8186328426810009303.post-79668848121630652402013-05-13T15:27:00.000+01:002013-05-13T15:27:08.492+01:00Online Dating Tips: Strengthening Communication<span style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">We’re in the digital age, which means online personals have become a mainstream mode to </span><a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" style="-webkit-transition: color 0.3s linear; background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #39a395; font-family: Helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; transition: color 0.3s linear; vertical-align: baseline; word-wrap: break-word;" target="_blank">find a date</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">. Perhaps you’ve taken the initiative to try out a site like </span><a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" style="-webkit-transition: color 0.3s linear; background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #39a395; font-family: Helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; transition: color 0.3s linear; vertical-align: baseline; word-wrap: break-word;" target="_blank">Datingover50UK.com</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">. Great! Now it’s time to relearn the rules of the manhunt.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">Communication is key. For example, that dreaded first email. Let’s say you have a great profile, you’ve made initial contact, but now what? You wait, check your inbox a million times, and after getting no response, you make plans to join a convent.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">Don’t be silly. You know the right guy is out there for you. Just follow these 5 tips that’ll put the odds of getting a response in your favor!</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">1. </span><strong style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Read profiles before making contact: </strong><span style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">This is how you determine whether you’re compatible and have common interests. After you decide to send a message, include a line that shows you read the profile. People generally appreciate the effort and will reciprocate.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">2. </span><strong style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Be honest!</strong><span style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;"> Don’t exaggerate your qualities or misrepresent yourself. After all, if you plan on </span><a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" style="-webkit-transition: color 0.3s linear; background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #39a395; font-family: Helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; transition: color 0.3s linear; vertical-align: baseline; word-wrap: break-word;" target="_blank">meeting singles</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;"> face-to-face and you’re not that 5’11” Cindy Crawford lookalike you showcased on your profile, it will be awkward. Take your mom’s advice: honesty is the best policy.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">3. </span><strong style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Don’t abbreviate too many words:</strong><span style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;"> An abbreviation here and there is okay, but if a person needs a decoder ring to figure out what you’re trying to say, chances are they will just hit the delete button.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">4. </span><strong style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Sell yourself without sounding full of yourself: </strong><span style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">Your friends and family know you’re awesome, but continuous self-promotion is a turn off. Remember, you want to engage people with your message, not make them scoff and roll their eyes.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">5. </span><strong style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">End with a question:</strong><span style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;"> Asking questions will prompt potential dates to respond. For example, if a person’s profile says they’re into hiking, ask them something like, “I see you’re into hiking! Me too. Do you have any favorite trails?” Easy, right?</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">Now </span><a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" style="-webkit-transition: color 0.3s linear; background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #39a395; font-family: Helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; transition: color 0.3s linear; vertical-align: baseline; word-wrap: break-word;" target="_blank">single ladies</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #65605c; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Regular', HelveticaNeue-Regular, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">, take this advice and </span><a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" style="-webkit-transition: color 0.3s linear; background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #39a395; font-family: Helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; transition: color 0.3s linear; vertical-align: baseline; word-wrap: break-word;" target="_blank">find a love match!</a><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;">Too many women in their 50's and beyond have given up on ever meeting Mr. Practically Perfect. But a small inner voice whispers, "Will I always have to eat alone and go to bed with a book?" Responding to that voice, the authors' encouraging message is, "It's never too late. We did it. So can you."</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">Think of every date as an adventure. If it ends with a handshake instead of a kiss, never beat yourself up. Just smile ruefully, mentally push last night's loser off a cliff, and move on to the next candidate. Above all: persist, persist, persist.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">Howard and Shirley wrote a book on it! Click on their link below to see more...</span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07158837356182609596noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8186328426810009303.post-31107827986866367032013-05-01T02:30:00.000+01:002013-05-01T10:04:57.378+01:00Going Out On A Date?<b style="border: 0px; color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, Tahoma, san-serif; line-height: 22px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Remember to HAVE FUN! </b><br />
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<span style="background-color: #f6f6f6;"><span style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, Tahoma, san-serif;"><span style="line-height: 22px;">You aren't solving world peace or the Bermuda Triangle. </span></span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #f6f6f6;"><span style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, Tahoma, san-serif;"><span style="line-height: 22px;">You are going to meet someone that is quite possibly cute and charming, and someone you may just like, so just relax and let it happen. And, worst-case scenario, you can always write a fun blog about all of your dating adventures!</span></span></span><br />
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Shhhh... sex does not stop in your 60's!</div>
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But according to experts older people find it difficult to <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">talk about sex</a> and do not know where to go for advice.</div>
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<a href="http://www.ageuk.org.uk/" style="border: 0px; color: #0081c7; cursor: pointer; list-style: none; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_hplink">Age UK</a> said that despite problems associated with getting older it did not mean an end to a sex life.</div>
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The charity carried out a survey of over 65's and found that a quarter (24%) said their sexual lifestyle has not changed despite their age.</div>
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But more than a quarter (28%) feel they cannot talk to their partner about sex and over two thirds (69%) have never sought sexual health advice.</div>
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And almost one in 10 (8%) of over-65s are keen to <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">embark on a new sexual relationship.</a></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333;">The survey highlighted the extent to which sex remains an important part of people's lives, with almost two thirds (62%) of over-65's in the survey saying that they are currently enjoying a fulfilling sex life.</span></blockquote>
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What's more, a wish to keep the spark alive came through in the findings, as one in eight (12%) said they would like to try new things with their partner.</div>
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Just under one in five (18%) want to be more sexually active - rising to over a quarter (27%) among men.</div>
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Lucy Harmer, from Age UK, said: "Our survey shows that having a healthy sex life is important to us regardless of our age.</div>
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"However, we also found that many older people may find it hard to speak up about sex, be it to their partner, friends or healthcare professionals.</div>
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"Age UK is keen to increase awareness of the importance of seeking out information and advice on sex - whatever your age.</div>
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"Some people's knowledge will be based on guidance received when they were first sexually active a number of years ago - and it's vital that those in later life have access to relevant, up-to-date information.</div>
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"The changes that many people face as we age, such as the menopause or finding our joints become less supple, don't necessarily mean our sex life has to stop.</div>
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"The right information and advice will help people in later life to <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">keep sexually active</a> and healthy for as long as desired."</div>
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:: A total of 2,000 UK adults over 65, and 2,000 UK adults under 50, were surveyed via an online poll by Vision Critical in November 2012.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07158837356182609596noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8186328426810009303.post-60787254670434505552013-04-26T14:57:00.000+01:002013-04-26T14:57:30.247+01:00Secrets to a Successful Re-Entry Into the World of Dating<br />
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<a href="http://www.datingadvice.com/advice/image-tips-for-midlife-single-women-dating-again" style="color: #1591cb; text-decoration: none;" title="Image Tips for Midlife Single Women Dating Again">Re-entering the dating scene</a> after divorce or a long-term relationship can be intimidating and daunting to any woman.</div>
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Even the most accomplished, confident or beautiful woman can regress to the point of feeling like a pimple-faced, awkward adolescent at a middle school dance.</div>
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To say you feel “out of practice” may be a gross understatement. It is enough to make you curl up on the couch with a pint of Ben & Jerry’s while sobbing through reruns of romantic Hugh Grant movies.</div>
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You may even be convinced romance is just for the lucky or the young. To make matters worse, you may be feeling discarded, unappreciated or rejected by your former spouse or lover.</div>
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While the realization you don’t want to spend the rest of your life alone may be surfacing, you may also be asking if it is worth the risk to give love another chance, especially if you have just been burned and the wounds are still painfully fresh.</div>
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While the cautionary tales of “love gone bad” are ever abundant, sometimes hope springs eternal and you may find yourself considering “giving it another go.”</div>
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There are ways to wisely navigate through this “flowered meadow” filled with potential land mines.</div>
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1. Get really clear about what you want.</h3>
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Wisdom does come through experience. By now, you know yourself and likely have some clarity about what you want and need in a relationship.</div>
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Do you actually want another <a href="http://www.datingadvice.com/online-dating/how-to-spot-long-term-potential-online" style="color: #1591cb; text-decoration: none;" title="How to Spot Long-Term Potential Online">long-term relationship</a> or marriage, or do you just want some companionship?</div>
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You may find you need some time and space on your own to recover and avoid the sometimes ghastly “rebound relationship.”</div>
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This is easier said than done since it may feel like your heart is on the line, but remember love and romance are supposed to be fun.</div>
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I think it’s sad when all the joy is taken out of the equation and is displaced by fear.</div>
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If you need to ease back in slowly, try to participate in social engagements and settings which feel safe and enjoyable to you.</div>
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Choose activities which interest and excite you since having a life filled with things you love is very attractive and rewarding.</div>
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While you are not likely to meet “<a href="http://www.datingadvice.com/how-to/how-find-the-one-after-50" style="color: #1591cb; text-decoration: none;" title="How to Find “The One” After 50">The One</a>” at a daytime yoga class, it is at least getting you out of the house.</div>
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Once you feel more comfortable in social situations, you can branch out and stretch a little by expanding your social circles and trying new things.</div>
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Then once you really get your mojo going strong, you can go to <a href="http://www.datingadvice.com/advice/where-can-you-meet-quality-senior-singles" style="color: #1591cb; text-decoration: none;" title="Where Can You Meet Quality Senior Singles?">where the men are</a>: car shows, business events, financial seminars and sporting events, just to name a few. Or maybe try <a href="http://www.datingover50uk.com/" target="_blank">Internet Dating?</a></div>
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